Failure is not absolute. It does not have to fall below 45 or 50.
Failure is failing to meet up to expectations. Your own, others.
Failure reveals under-achievers.
It is a great burden to be an under-achiever.
Firstly, you have to deal with the catastrophic results.
Then you have to deal with trying to act like you’ve gotten over it.
The social pressure to remain happy in the face of catastrophic results is burdensome. You have to remain okay. You have to reply that you are okay everytime someone asks you. You have to express it openly, then get over it in a short period of time.
Grief is sanctioned: pretending to be fine is the only way to deal with the pressure. Grief only for a day at maximum: one hour too much excessive and foolish, one too little is pointlessly optimistic. Social cajoling and well-intentioned encouragement will ensure you keep time.
Grief is communal. Grief is cheap.
Brave are the under-achievers who grief under the sheets.
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not sure how much I agree with this one. I like that people keep their negative emotions to themselves but surely that comes at some marginal private cost. if you wanna let everything rip, do!
anw, “talent is talent”, and boy you definitely have at least a little of that. what do promo results matter?
Can’t agree either. There’s some sense to what’s been going around – this is J1, and you do still have one full year before the real thing, which is plenty of time to work with. And the consolations, for the most part, are sincere. People sincerely want you to get better. As much as you can dismiss this coming from me, holding on to grief under the sheets can’t be good for you if you don’t want a repeat the next time round. Yes, you’ll have to be brave, and yes, it’ll take time. But part of the recovery is the acceptance that whatever has been done has been done, and you can’t change it. There’s only the future to hope for, and as mooty says, I think you’ve got plenty to hope for. Hang in there.
The reaction to failure reveals the character of a person more than the failure itself.
Let your grief be your own.
Not sure if it’s relevant, but I’d just like to add that someone is brave if he/she can face up to the dismal scripts, actually read and absord the teacher’s comments.
Right now I don’t have the courage to look at my scripts!
Being brave isn’t grieving under the covers, but it’s having the courage to rectify one’s mistakes.
But anyway, whatever we have, ’successes’ or ‘failures’ – if these 2 words even carry meaning, it all comes from God, so take it in stride. We’ve all had bad results before (I certainly did; my academic track record is really not great), so I do understand how you feel/felt!
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